I'm sorry...

Sorry for the lack of post yesterday. Elmer (Little Bit) is doing just fine! He is crawling around trying to see what all he can get in to right now so no telling how much time I have available to type right now.

Yesterday was a big day around here. Not only did we have the trip with the baby, I took Tara to meet up with Tom to sign her divorce papers. Tom is still playing the manipulation game. On one hand, he gets the papers for her to sign but she can only have them if she "talks" to him. That mostly involved him up in her face while she tried to get the papers. She got some of her stuff so she's better off there than she was but of course, all her school things... not given to her. Now, not only is Tom trying to manipulate her but he is [of course] sucking his family into the game too. He stuck his sister's gf, Tonia on Tara last night. And in every conversation, its the blame game. He did nothing wrong. He loves her. Its her fault he kicked her out. Its her fault that he drank. Its her family's fault that he was violent and abusive towards her underage brothers. And even Tonia who plays the "we're friends" thing - tries to sing the same old over-used song. Tonia tells Tara that Tom loves her- that he's miserable and crying- that he "quit drinking". And yet... Not a single time has Tom ever shown any hint of a change. He still wants everything his way. He still refuses to accept responsibility for any of the issues that have occurred. The problems between he and the boys- of course the boys fault. I mean - Little Man was 15 when Tom threw him out in the street 200 miles from home and chased him around a car in the front yard threatening to kill him and the police had to take LM into protective custody. That was all Little Man's fault. Of course, none of it was Tom's fault. Wasn't Tom's fault that he robbed stores all those times either. An invisible person put an invisible gun to his head and forced him to walk into the store, fill his cart with things and walk back out without paying for them. That same imaginary man must have been the one that made him beat up the store greeter that time to get away too. You know, maybe if his family didn't spend so much time defending him and they had ever told him how pathetic he was to refuse to hold a job or support himself (let alone a wife) or what a loser he was for refusing to support his kids- maybe Tom would still have his first wife ... instead of going thru his 2nd divorce. Maybe instead of driving the get away car for him on his store robberies, his mom should have taught him that stealing was wrong (that is straight from Tom... he told me that his mom would go to the stores with him and wait outside for him to go in and steal stuff...Tom claims that his trip to prison was all his mom's fault - now remember here though...most of what Tom says is a lie). Maybe instead of supporting him, they should have told him to get off his lazy tail and get a job instead of thinking he's entitled to anything he wants and he has the right to just take it. Maybe they should have taught him that drinking till you beat people up every night is wrong instead of buying more alcohol for him to abuse. Maybe instead of telling him how mean his ex was for not bowing down to him and letting an abusive alcoholic spend unsupervised time with the kids they would have better served him to tell him to get help, get a job and be a decent role model and support his kids rather than just being a worthless sperm donor who does nothing for his kids. Its funny. Tom's family. Just like SD's family. SD's family- drinks with him and tells him how abused he is that the kids are mad at him. Nothing is ever their fault. In both cases, neither of them have ever accepted responsibility for anything that has ever happened or gone wrong in their lives. Even when they have had to do jail time- not their fault for what they did...someone else's fault for whatever messed up reason they feel like using that day. In both cases, they are alcoholics and drug abusers. In both cases, they are bullies and think physical violence is the way to handle anyone who doesn't agree with them. In both cases, they like to try and manipulate the people around them and both of them play the "pity poor me" game. So sad really. Tom and SD cannot stand each other. And its funny because they are so much alike as to be twins in personality. They had no problem drinking and drugging together when they were there together though. Of course not! Tara is ready to go back home to the property and the peace there. Right now- I don't blame her one bit. Being here and having to deal with Tom's constant pity party would make me want to leave town too.

In other news, LM still has no car. They are grinding his fly wheel now and the mechanic will pick him up in his car when its done. It will still be a few hours and it sucks that he will have very little time down here but he will get to come down for a few. Trying to get him to trade his few hours of work tomorrow for someone's Sunday hours so he can gain more time to stay.

Well, Elmer wants fed so his grandma is going to go feed him some breakfast. His mommy and daddy are getting some much needed sleep after the baby keeping them up all night.

Keep smiling all!